Love Is Blind” star Sara Carton declined Ben Mezzenga’s proposal at the altar, citing his views—or lack thereof—on “equality, religion, [and] the vaccine.”

Sara Carton’s rejection of Ben Mezzenga at the altar in the season 8 finale ignites heated discussions about whether ideological alignment is a relationship dealbreaker.

Case in point: Love Is Blind Season 8, where two couples broke up at the altar over politics—specifically, Black Lives Matter and abortion rights. Watching it unfold, I couldn’t stop thinking about my own dating dealbreakers. And I would have made the exact same decision—though I probably would have made it on date one.